Before babies, I had plenty of experience with little ones and had been around plenty of babies and children, from family to my friends children. So when I fell pregnant I thought I was pretty prepared for what was about to come.
Oh how wrong was I! There is literally nothing to prepare you for those first few weeks of having a new-born baby.
As first time parents we went to all the suitable parenting classes, read all the books and took all the advice we could get. Naively we thought it would be a breeze…. eat, sleep, change a nappy…. job done right. I can hear you al laughing as I write this, and in fact it makes me laugh thinking back now.
Mop Top was born on her due date, despite a little blue lighting in an ambulance she arrived with little drama. And this is the point our lives was turned completely upside down, and never to be the same again.
She cried a lot, she pooed a lot, she ate a lot. Wow this is actually hard work. One positive she was a pretty good sleeper at night, but during the day she was not the happiest of babies. I breast fed, and fed for what felt like most of the day through to the evening. I’d feed, she’d burp, and then seem to want to feed again. It was a never ending circle. Mop Top had acid reflux, so we had that to manage with medicine and anything else that would help. We tried cranial Osteopathy for her, which really helped. I would recommend this actually as it really did chill her out for a while.
I remember driving home from somewhere once, and Mop Top had literally screamed the whole way, I took her out of her car seat and just handed her to Mr DC as I had no idea what to do next. I sat on the sofa in a trance while he settled her.
I was nervous to go out in case she kicked off, and was generally tense for the first few weeks of being a new mummy. If she did kick off, family and friends would say ‘what does she want’ ermmmm I don’t know, you tell me! I didn’t feel like we had any form of routine, she would eat, poo and sleep whenever she wanted. She definitely ruled our life ( and still does for that matter)
For the first 6 weeks of Mop Top being here, we literally struggled through hoping things would get better soon. Nobody told us it would be this hard, why did no one tell us the realities of this?? Then I felt guilty because the rose tinted image of having a new-born was not the image we were living in our house.
But…… as we introduced a bed time routine, and a bed time bottle, normality crept its way back into our house. She started to fall into a feeding routine, and we established day time naps. It is by no means easy but I guess we settled into the parenting thing.
So if you are pregnant, or have pregnant friends, please, in the nicest way possible fill them in with the realities of a new born. I am not saying burst the new parent bubble completely, but lets take away that shock of a new born so we all know what’s coming!
Lots of Love