It’s November and already it’s Christmas Christmas Christmas. You literally can’t go anywhere without noticing something to do with Christmas and I really love Christmas. But it Does means one thing for parents….. Christmas guilt.
There are three things I am feeling guilty for this year. Firstly Christmas cards. Last year, Mop Tops first Christmas we set aside a whole day with friends to hand make our own cards using the little ones footprints. They were very cute… and very time consuming. This year i was not even considering writing cards let alone making them. It’s one of those things your spend hours writing, only for them to get thrown away two days after the big day. I may find the energy to get creatively festive (I’ll be sure to blog about it if I do)
Secondly….. Father Christmas. Someone recently said to me ‘are you taking Mop Top to see Father Christmas ‘ ermmmm I hadn’t planned to, does that make me a bad parent?? Ok so she’s 16months old, pretty wary of new people anyway, so I don’t think a fat bearded man dressed in red is going to go down well. My mother in law asked if they could take her, of course I said yes as it’s nice for her to do stuff with them and I’m sure she’ll enjoy it. But I wasn’t going to, however the response I got when I said this made a wave of festive guilt ride over me.
I almost caved but decided I was going to stick to my guns. We have planned a festive day out to the Reindeer centre and a little Christmas show. Until next year that’s all she’s getting. I can feel you all reading this judging what a mean Scrooge mummy I am.
My final festive guilt topic is presents, again I feel I should highlight my 1 plus 1 are 16 months and 4 months so aren’t really aware of the whole Christmas thing yet. Last year it was Mop Tops first Christmas and we really didn’t buy her much; a few little toys and some clothes. And we plan to do the same this year. We are still at my parents and although there is lots of space there is not abundance of rooms to put toys in, we have already taken over most rooms. Plus what do they really need at this age.
I got their Christmas presents out last night and it really does look slightly pathetic. Mainly clothes, with one or two toys each. So now I’m panicking that again I’m being that mean Scrooge mummy. My mum says don’t bow down to the guilt, but actually I think I will on this occasion and just get Mop Top a couple of extra toys, maybe Peppa related as that’s a favourite at the moment.
It’s so easy to go crazy at Christmas, I’ve thought of hundreds of toys I could get her, but she really doesn’t need them. And I really don’t think they’ll remember their mean mummy hardly getting them anything for Christmas in a few years time
I think even when they are older I will be sure to put a limit on their presents. I found this picture today and thought it would be useful at Xmas time.
Don’t get me wrong we will make Bears first Christmas special and they will both enjoy the festive period seeing family and enjoying presents (they will get more than a piece of coal don’t worry)
Anyway that’s my Christmas guilt and I’m sure it will crop up every year from now on.
Feel free to share and comment your Christmas guilt stories and how you deal with them.