In a few days I have a health visitor coming round for Bears 10-12 month check and have already filled out my ‘is he dong this yet’ questionnaire.
Now I know they are only doing their jobs, but don’t these appointments just make you feel so bloody inadequate as a mother.
Does he have any teeth…. No ‘cue eyebrow raise
Have you stopped giving him a bottle…. No ‘cue eyebrow raise
Does he sleep through….. No ‘cue that eyebrow raise
Eurgghh I can already feel myself getting the lies ready just to please her records.
I have come to the conclusion through experience and my mums knowledgable advice that being a mother is about doing what you can to get through. If Bear wakes in the night, he comes in our bed (blog coming up about accidental co-sleeping), if Mop Top needs milk from a bottle, then that’s ok.
There are so many different guideline that seem to change every month about feeding, sleeping and everything else, it really is hard to keep up. I recently had a conversation with some friends who are due their baby in just a few weeks, about making up bottles. They were so confused about different advice they had been told, and it really is so ridiculous the different opinions out there.
But I think every parent finds their own way of doing things. Every evening we pour boiled water in each bottle and then get the right amount of powder in a little pot ready to mix up when needed the next day. Both of mine have always had room temperature milk. Now this might be different to the next person, but it works for us, and both my babies have been fine with it.
In 5 years time when my little babies are no longer little babies these major hurdles we struggle through right now will be irrelevant and they’ll be a whole other list of things to worry about.
So right now I know my little Bear well enough to know he is doing just fine, despite what the HV may say on Thursday, and we will continue to get through each day the best we can!