From 0-30 in Record Time

My little Bear is 13 months and is well and truly mobile! And it occurred to me today how quickly he has gone from a static little bubba to a big boy climbing up and down the stairs.

Initially he was an army crawler, just dragging his legs around. But was pretty speedy this way. Why waste energy using four limbs when you can get around with two!

A few months ago we were sent an anti slip babygrow, perfect for an army crawling baby around my wooden floors. Crawlerz sell babygrows with incorporated anti slip safety grips. The legs have integrated anti slip sections to allow baby to push of the floor easier. We were sent size 9-12 months and actually that was pretty big. In fact Bear is 13 months old and it still fits pretty well. They have super cute designs, Bear has the Little Jungle Friends design. Bear looks super cute and can get around without slipping everywhere.


We are now at the stage where he wants to be standing all the time. I think we are a long way off walking but he is cruising furniture and will happily walk around hold some ones hands albeit it very wobbly.
So he has gone from static to mobile in what feels like record time! It is funny isn’t it, as parents we are constantly wishing and hoping for our little ones to do the next thing, or reach the next milestone. But it is not until you sit back and look at how grown up your littles ones are that we want them to stop growing, and hold time still.
When I had Bear, people would say how do you manage with two so close together. But I look back and think ah man having a new born and one year old is easy, compared to two moving babies!! In fact now it is harder as Bear needs my support to walk around all the time.

so we move onto the n still milestone in our house…. walking. Here’s to the next funs and fails it brings.

Do you wish you could hold time? Stop you little ones moving onto the next milestone while you appreciate it a little more?
I would love to hear all about your little ones next milestone.

Love Kelly

 

 

 

Play in the rain… I dare you

This morning I watched an article on Lorraine with Marina Fogle. They were basically discussing if we wrap our children in bubble wrap these days. And it really got me thinking. Marina Fogle told a story about how she ‘let’ her daughter fall down the stairs. Before you all go crazy she ‘set’ it up as safely as she could, with cushions and pillows and the theory was her little girl would learn herself how to manage the stairs safely.

So I spent the rest of the day keeping track of how many times I said ‘be careful’ ‘slow down’ etc and turns out it was quite a lot. I even got thinking about activities I do and don’t let them do. Going in the garden with no shoes on, playing out in the rain; two things I generally don’t let the kids do. Which writing them out now sound ridiculously.

This afternoon we put wellies on, coats on and went for a walk…. It was raining!! Call the police! Haha

Im pretty sure when I was a child and even more so when my parents were small, we were left to get on with things. There wasn’t child locks, stair gates and so many child safety gadgets.

So how do we promote indepedance in our children without causing them harm.  Would love to hear your thoughts on how safety conscious you are with your little ones?

I am really going to try and let my two explore their own independance, with me a few extra steps behind. Well try at least!

 

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Sh*t Happens…. Literally

The following article contains the word POO and I must note no poo was harmed in the making of this blog post! You have been warned!

We have made it almost 2 years with children having not had to do this and I have to say I was hoping I would never have to do it…But yesterday the pivotal event of all parenting occurred in our house.

Let me set the scene for a minute; both babies in the bath, all going swimmingly (no pun intended) Then Mr DC swiftly got two babies out of the bath consecutively. He then very calmly says ‘erm Mollie has pooed in the bath’

Oh great, he very cleverly starts dealing with the children, leaving me to deal with said poo! What the hell do you use to get a turd out of water! Oh come on they don’t teach you this in ante natal class!

I have to say I had bloggers hat on and actually took a photo first, however I don’t feel it is appropriate to share here. It is available on request 😳

Anyway I use a jug (the jug we use to wash the children’s hair… Must remove to wash that!) and actually it was much harder than I thought. Picture this… Me with a jug trying to manoeuvre it round 2 little ducks, a plastic dolphin and a upside down boat! I have to say it took me a few attempts to capture the little floater but 1-0 to mummy!

Mr DC obviously found this hilarious, and I have noted this and he is on poo bath duty next time it happens!

 

The mountains of all tantrums

 

Mop Top is 4 weeks of her 2 birthday, but I have definitely noticed some ‘terrible two’ type behaviours as of late……
However today we hit an all time high on the toddler tantrum spectrum.

She had been really good all morning so I agreed she could have some sweets to eat after lunch. We went to the shops and brought two packs; one for Mop Top and one for my niece Sophie.
Mop Top fell asleep on the way home so I put her straight up when we got in. Not long later she woke, very much earlier than normal. Here was the first down hill step to tantrum city!
I then (shockingly) said she couldn’t eat sweets for lunch, what a horrible mummy, well all hell broke loose. Crying, screaming, snot, tears, noise and more noise. I tried reasoning, persuasion, and even threatening… Nothing but loud noise.

At this point my mum and dad were in the room, whilst Bear and Sophie were still trying to have lunch. There is nothing worse than your parents watching you trying to parent.
After trying to reason with a 23 month old, the only option was time out in her cot to calm down. As you can imagine this didn’t go down well. More screaming, more noise….. Now I’m running out of options.

Thank fully an hour and 15 minutes later (yes I know!!) she seemed to calm down. I got her out of her cot, and she actually ate something that wasn’t sweets. Well she had crisps and a yoghurt but better than sweets surely.

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I feel like this is the first of many, but wowzer I need to up my game in the tantrum handling game. It’s funny the emotions parenting brings, one minute I’m rocking motherhood and next I’m close to tears and unable to handle a two year old.

I am currently drinking alcohol and eating chocolate, that’s my coping strategy! Would love to hear your tantrum stories, comment below.

Love Kelly

 

Getting through the best we can

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Now I know they are only doing their jobs, but don’t these appointments just make you feel so bloody inadequate as a mother.

Does he have any teeth…. No ‘cue eyebrow raise
Have you stopped giving him a bottle…. No ‘cue eyebrow raise
Does he sleep through….. No ‘cue that eyebrow raise

Eurgghh I can already feel myself getting the lies ready just to please her records.

I have come to the conclusion through experience and my mums knowledgable advice that being a mother is about doing what you can to get through. If Bear wakes in the night, he comes in our bed (blog coming up about accidental co-sleeping), if Mop Top needs milk from a bottle, then that’s ok.

There are so many different guideline that seem to change every month about feeding, sleeping and everything else, it really is hard to keep up. I recently had a conversation with some friends who are due their baby in just a few weeks, about making up bottles. They were so confused about different advice they had been told, and it really is so ridiculous the different opinions out there.
But I think every parent finds their own way of doing things. Every evening we pour boiled water in each bottle and then get the right amount of powder in a little pot ready to mix up when needed the next day. Both of mine have always had room temperature milk. Now this might be different to the next person, but it works for us, and both my babies have been fine with it.

In 5 years time when my little babies are no longer little babies these major hurdles we struggle through right now will be irrelevant and they’ll be a whole other list of things to worry about.
So right now I know my little Bear well enough to know he is doing just fine, despite what the HV may say on Thursday, and we will continue to get through each day the best we can!

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10Day Exercise Challenge

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I recently read an article in a magazine about a new exercise crazy. Ten days of HIIT workouts, everyday with no rest day. Perfect for an specific event or to squeeze into that LBD.
Well does it really work? Is it actually possible as a busy mum? I wanted to find out!!

So that was the plan…. 10 days, 10 HIIT workouts…. simple….. hmmm well this is what happened.

Day 1 full of energy & raring to go I did a 20 minute Powerwave workout. If you haven’t heard of this type before, be sure to look it up. It’s a hefty bit of equipment, but It’s only 20 minutes and an absolutely killer! It’s seems a craze at the moment. We have one at home so as soon as the babies were soundo I went to work with my Powerwave.

The next few days were ok, mixed it up with some Joe Wicks; Body Coach workouts from YouTube. Although it’s not getting any easier, I have to say I’m not really feeling that much different.

Mr DC had to force me to do my daily workout on more than one day! I have a little confession here…. I’m blaming motherhood (like I do everything else) I missed day 7 and 10. So actually it’s a 8 day challenge…oh well

I’m not going to bore you with the before and after, no one really needs to see that on a Sunday night! I lost a tiny bit of weight (didn’t change eating habits during the 10days) but little change to body shape/appearance. No LBD to test I’m afraid. I do not think its an exercise programme that’s maintainable. You body needs the rest days. Plus (playing the tired mum card again) you need a whole bucket of self motivation.

I am all for HIIT workouts as they burn fat, are quick, and don’t need to get boring. As a busy mum finding 20 minutes after the kids are in bed isn’t actually that hard, finding the energy is the hard part! The urge to snuggle down on the sofa is pretty easy.

It’s much better to do it with a gym buddy, friend or other half. They can provide the motivation that you lack.

So my view is 2/3 times a week chuck on your gym stuff, YouTube a HIIT workout (I would recommend The Body Coach) and get sweat on!

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Mumma Guilt

My mum once told me parenting is 80% guilt, and you know what they say your mum is always right! and I am finding out how true this is on a daily basis.

I previously wrote about the guilt I faced at Christmas. Well I am finding it is a constant battle between being the perfect parent and giving in ‘just this once’ both followed by ‘mumma guilt’

If you like our facebook page; funwith1plus1 (feel free to click and like) you will know the Easter Bunny took Mop Tops dummies last week. I had been prepping her for a few weeks that the bunny would take the dummies but may leave her something yummy in return. So Easter Sunday arrived and she merrily put her dummies in a basket and as if by magic they were gone and had been replaced with a little present and some chocolate. So far so good.

We were pretty busy the whole weekend so it hasn’t seemed to bother her too much. Nap times are a bit more of a battle but actually she has coped really well with out it.

It wasn’t until I went into to get Bear the other night as he was crying that I looked at her innocent sleepy face (they share a room) with no dummy in, that the guilt hit me. What a mean mummy taking away her only little comfort. By this point I am sobbing to Mr DC telling him I am a horrible parent! I convinced myself she definitely hated me, and would remember this for an entire life time. Ok I am sleep deprived so am entitled to exaggerate a little.

I remember feeling a wave of guilt when Bear was small; as I wasn’t able to do everything with him that I had done with Mop Top. I took Mop Top to Baby Sensory, but it just wasn’t possible with Bear. Mop Top had lots of new things as a baby, but poor little Bear everything was second hand. Second child syndrome right there.

This ‘mumma guilt’ carries on everyday with every decision we make as parents. We are raising these small human beings and based on our choices and decisions determines the adults they become.

WOW what a scary statement!

But hey we can only do our best right! Some days, usually after a sleepless night I just give in to the demands of my very demanding 20 month old and some days I try to stick to my guns and I am in charge. I have to say I very rarely feel in charge, its usually Mop Top.

Do you suffer ‘mumma guilt’ I would love to hear your stories…

Love Kelly

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How life has changed!

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If you have recently had a baby I imagine you are quickly realising your life will never be the same again.

It has occurred to me recently how my life has changed since having babies. So here are my top ten:

1: I can no longer wee with the door shut. It’s a privelage that automatically gets taken away as soon as you give birth.

2: It’s a given that I will always share my food with one or both of my children.

3: I can no longer leave the house with just my phone and keys.

4: ‘popping’ to the shop does not happen. It’s a military operation to go anywhere

5: I will sing at least one nursery rhyme a day (it is way more than this!!!)

6: I don’t even flinch at the smell of baby poo. It’s part of my day now!!

7: I can not go out and get wasted on a Saturday night. (Well I can but a hangover plus babies do born mix well!)

8: Birthdays and Christmas have a whole new meaning now.

9: Dinner times are loud, manic and normally full of choo choo trains!

10: We are in bed my 9pm most nights. (Got to get those few extra minutes sleep)

I know people say it all the time but I genuinely can’t imagine my life with out my babies. ❤️

Woyld love to hear how your life has changed since babies?

Love

Kelly ❤️

From 1 to 1+1

cropped-cropped-logo-12.pngA few days ago I wrote about the shock a newborn. So move forward a few months (only about 3 actually) and we have another shock of being pregnant again. Yes I did cry for quite a few weeks but we got used to the idea and now we have two beautiful babies.

People often ask is it much different from having 1 baby and if you have more than 1 baby you may agree or disagree with my view on this. (Would love to hear your comments on this.)

When Bear was born, Mop Top was 5 days short of her first birthday. We were still in nappies, still having bottles and still very dependant on mummy. So add another one to the mix who is also very dependant on mummy and you have a very busy life.

But I look at it like this…..I was already changing nappies, sterilising bottles and making up formula so actually we just carried on with our normal routine with the added work load. Yes it’s busy, crazy and manic all the same time but I genuinely think having 2 is more manageable than 1.

With 1 baby, mummy has to do all the entertaining, but now Mop Top will entertain Bear with no problems (she does need to be told to be gentle sometimes)

There are a few problems with 2 babies…. when they both cry. Who to go to first? Your favourite? Haha just kidding! When Bear was smaller and cried there were only a certain number of things he wanted; milk, change nappy or sleep. So usually I’d sort Mop Top with whatever she needed then could concentrate on what Bear needed. yes it does mean Bear sometimes cries longer than I would like, but I only have one pair of hands.   

Two babies does take me a pretty long time to go anyway and I have to take what feels like a suitcase full of stuff with me everywhere. Its pretty much a military operation; shoes on, coat on, Bear and bag in the car, then Mop Top in, check buggy, lock door and we are good to go.
I have to say currently Bear is not on the move so my opinion may change when he starts to move about as I will need eyes in the back of my head!

It is double the work load, packing double in the back, two lots of milk, two piles of clothes but I say being organised helps with that.

We often need a few deep breaths, and a few bars of chocolate to get us through but going from 1 to 1+1 has not been as bad as I thought.

Have you got more than 1 child, what’s your thoughts on this? If you only have 1 child now, are you dreading having another?

 

The Shock of a Newborn

Before babies, I had plenty of experience with little ones and had been around plenty of babies and children, from family to my friends children. So when I fell pregnant I thought I was pretty prepared for what was about to come.

Oh how wrong was I! There is literally nothing to prepare you for those first few weeks of having a new-born baby.

As first time parents we went to all the suitable parenting classes, read all the books and took all the advice we could get. Naively we thought it would be a breeze…. eat, sleep, change a nappy…. job done right. I can hear you al laughing as I write this, and in fact it makes me laugh thinking back now.

Mop Top was born on her due date, despite a little blue lighting in an ambulance she arrived with little drama. And this is the point our lives was turned completely upside down, and never to be the same again.

She cried a lot, she pooed a lot, she ate a lot. Wow this is actually hard work. One positive she was a pretty good sleeper at night, but during the day she was not the happiest of babies. I breast fed, and fed for what felt like most of the day through to the evening. I’d feed, she’d burp, and then seem to want to feed again. It was a never ending circle. Mop Top had acid reflux, so we had that to manage with medicine and anything else that would help. We tried cranial Osteopathy for her, which really helped. I would recommend this actually as it really did chill her out for a while.

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I remember driving home from somewhere once, and Mop Top had literally screamed the whole way, I took her out of her car seat and just handed her to Mr DC as I had no idea what to do next. I sat on the sofa in a trance while he settled her.

I was nervous to go out in case she kicked off, and was generally tense for the first few weeks of being a new mummy. If she did kick off, family and friends would say ‘what does she want’ ermmmm I don’t know, you tell me! I didn’t feel like we had any form of routine, she would eat, poo and sleep whenever she wanted. She definitely ruled our life ( and still does for that matter)

For the first 6 weeks of Mop Top being here, we literally struggled through hoping things would get better soon. Nobody told us it would be this hard, why did no one tell us the realities of this?? Then I felt guilty because the rose tinted image of having a new-born was not the image we were living in our house.

But…… as we introduced a bed time routine, and a bed time bottle, normality crept its way back into our house. She started to fall into a feeding routine, and we established day time naps. It is by no means easy but I guess we settled into the parenting thing.

So if you are pregnant, or have pregnant friends, please, in the nicest way possible fill them in with the realities of a new born. I am not saying burst the new parent bubble completely, but lets take away that shock of a new born so we all know what’s coming!

Lots of Love

Kelly xx

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