What I would tell my pre-baby self

I have been thinking about this post for a while, and what I would honestly say to myself before babies. Can I even remember that far back, it was only two years ago, but I genuinely can not remember what my life was like before having children.

There are so many things I could tell myself back then, as they say hindsight is a wonderful thing. I have tried to whittle these down, so here are mine:

1- Be Spontaneous. Spontaneity goes out of the window when you become a parent. 

2- Don’t plan the parent you are going to be. That will go out of the window when that little bundle of joy enters the world and dictates your every move.

3- Take all the help that is offered. Do not let pride get in the way, if they offer even if it is one tiny gesture, always say yes.


As I said I feel like I would tell myself a whole list of things. I thought on this post I would ask some fellow bloggers what piece of advice they would tell themselves, so here my top 10 pieces of advice….

‘Savour the lie in and never moan about having a wobbly tummy. You aint seen wobbly until having twins.’ Beth from Twinderelmo

‘Make the most of peaceful toilet trips.’ Jaymee from The Mum Diaries

‘Don’t wake the baby every three hours in the night just to change his nappy. This is insane behaviour’ Vicky from The Tactical Mummy

‘When the house is silent, listen. Remember just how silent it is.’ Tracey from Pack the PJS

‘Don’t do too much prep, you could read all the baby books and learn all the rules but you have no idea what your baby is like. Relax, go with the flow and remember baby is boss’ Eilidh from MaisyMeow

‘Its ok to ask for help!’ Jo from Pickle and Poppet

‘Read the baby not the books’ Laura from Life with Baby Kicks

‘Don’t worry about other kids progress, let yours develop at their own pace.’ Claire from The Organizer

‘Throw the baby manuals away and trusts your instinct’ Laura from Five Little Doves

‘Sleep while you can. For the next 6 years you will think 8am is a lie in’ Lisa from Hollybobbs

What a list, and I agree with every single one. If you have a pregnant friend, family member or work colleague tell them at least one of these this week.

What would you tell your pre-baby self? Please read, comment and like.

Remember mummies Your best will always be good enough, that hard time will pass, you are doing a great job!!Enjoy your evening

Love Kelly



Our Library Visit

From quite a young age Mop Top has enjoyed looking at books. So despite only being 19 months olds I decided to take her to the library this week. I was slightly worried as thought she would just pull all the books out and not understand the whole concept of a library.

However she surprised me, we went in and joined her up; she got her own library card and a sticker book for every time she visits. The BookTrust  provide every child with a lovely sticker book, with the aim of encouraging children to read and enjoy books.

We sat with the books for at least half an hour. She would pick a book, sit on my lap and we would read it together. We chose 3 to bring home, that was the trickiest part, I don’t think she understood the idea of not reading the books now, but taking them home to read. Despite my efforts one of the books was a Peppa Pig book.

She took the books herself up to the counter, with some help we gave the lady her card and all the books. We have so far read 2 of them, during our bed time routine. It was definitely a successful trip to the library and gave her a sense of achievement and independence. I plan to make our library visits a regular thing, and really hope her love for books continues to grow.

I would love to hear your book recommendations for Mop Top.

(Sorry for lack of photos, was too busy reading!)


Confessions of Motherhood

I find when people talk about motherhood, children and parenting in general often the reality is blurred. So these are my top six honest confessions of motherhood…..

  1. I very often eat quickly and in secret. While Mop Top is pre-occupied I speed into the kitchen, go to the goody cupboard and stuff a piece of chocolate or a biscuit in my mouth. Chew as fast as I can as I return to the lounge where she hasn’t even noticed my disappearance.
  2. I don’t shower every day….Yes iv said it now, its out there. Some days either I just don’t get time, or I am just too tired and id rather 10 minutes more in bed!
  3. I have told Mop Top a toy is broken just so I don’t have to hear the annoying music it plays for the 100th time that day.
  4. Some early mornings (like 5am) I pretend I cant hear Mop Top stirring until I know Mr DC is about to go see to her. (I know he does the same!)
  5. I often leave the house with the smell of sick, poo and wee covered up with multiple sprays of perfume.
  6. Sometimes I just give in for an easy life. Give in to the request of chocolate for a little bit of peace.


I’m sure there are plenty of other points I could confess about here, but I really don’t want you to completely judge me as a mother.

Anyway must dash, have a spare few seconds to secretly eat something yummy


Love Kelly





🎅🏻 Christmas is over for another year 🎅🏻

img_8136The built up goes on for weeks, I panic I haven’t brought enough presents, stress about wrapping then before you know it two days pass and it’s all over for another year. We have had a really great Christmas this year, dare I say it probably one of the best.
It was filled with food, drink, presents and loads of family time.
It was full on, busy and hectic at times but I wouldn’t of changed it at all.

Our Christmas’s have completely changed now we have children. For the better I might add. However this year they did not really know what was going on both being so young still. But we still did the whole Christmas magic thing.
Once the babies were in bed, I felt that urge of excitement. I finished of my home made gingerbread house.It took hours to do across a few days and it was destroyed my little hands in minutes on Christmas Day. img_8372One of our contributions to the big dinner this year was pigs in blankets. I wanted to buy them but Mr DC was adamant to make them, so I left him to his own devices to do those. He was very proud of them and they were very yummy. Our Santa jobs were done also, laying out the children’s presents by the chimney. And finally a glass of wine later we could relax and go to bed.

My parents always used to say they would have to wait for us to wake up Xmas morning and it was similar with Mop Top this year. Me and Bear were up early doors, unusual for Mop Top I was still looking at my watch at 730 for her to get up.
I’m not going to lie she was oblivious to the presents laid out carefully by Father Christmas. And actually I did most of the unwrapping.

We had planned a nice family walk to the church but the morning disappeared and before I knew it we were opening more presents and eating again.

We spent the afternoon at Mr DCs sisters and Mop Top came into her own; bossing every one around, mainly her 3 cousins. Who adore her so did everything she asked.
It was a long day and despite being shattered the babies were so well behaved.

Pjs, milk and bed ready for day 2. This time with my family. As we are officially homeless all of our belongings are being stored in my parents dining room. Which is fine all the time you don’t need to cater for a large family dinner. 16 adults, 7 children and 2 babies squeezed in to the conservatory.B

I always do a Xmas quiz, which always gets a little heated. Then the Xmas beard game was introduced… you may have seen the videos on Facebook.

Lots of family fun across both days. Which I really think is what Christmas is about.

But now I sit here two days post Xmas, decs still up, chocolate still filling the cupboard and I’m keen to have some normality back. I love Christmas but it’s really hard to stick to any form of routine. I tried to make sure the babies still napped, and went to bed on time and ate reasonably… but it’s not always possible when your here there and everywhere.

Anyway on to the year ahead, until Xmas creeps up on us again soon #360daystogo

Look out for our review of 2016 and looking ahead to 2017 soon.

lots of love




Christmas Quiz Fun


So it’s Christmas Eve and I sit here a little smug as both babies are in bed, and I have done all my Christmas jobs…. Bags packed, outfits laid out, gingerbread house ready, pigs in blankets ready to take to the sister in laws and wine in hand.

As its my first Christmas as a ‘blogger’ I have decided to join in with the Christmas Tag craze. I have been nominated by Catherine from Mama Cat + Baby Bee. So here goes….

Whats your favourite Christmas movie?

It has to be the classic Home Alone. Although Mop Top has just got into 101 Dalmations, so that has been a constant on our television this Christmas.

Have you ever had a white Christmas?

No, actually thinking about it I don’t think I have. To be honest I don’t really like the snow, and would prefer it just to be winter cold.

Where do you usually spend your holidays?

As both myself and Mr DC have large families, for the past few years we have alternated where we spend Christmas Day and Boxing Day. This year we are going to Mr DC’s sisters for Christmas Day and then my parents Boxing Day.

We spend Christmas morning having a fully cooked breakfast and opening presents in our pyjamas.

What is your favourite Christmas song?

It has to be Jingle Bells, a classic I can sing at the top of my voice with the kiddies and know all the words!

Do you open any presents on Christmas Eve?

We don’t open any presents Christmas Eve, however we did have a conversation about it just today. I read a tradition about a couple who opened their presents from each other on Christmas Eve because it was so manic Christmas Day with kiddies presents etc. Which I actually I quite like the idea off.

Can you name all of santas reindeers? 

Errr…. No I don’t think I can. Rudolph, Blitzen, Prancer. Poor effort I know!

Which holiday tradition are you looking forward to this year? 

Well I love a Christmas quiz, which I normally write. This year we will be playing it on Boxing Day.

In terms of other traditions we don’t have many as a family yet, but as the babies get older I hope we can make some that they remember.

Is you Christmas tree real or fake? 

It is a fake tree, but I really want a real one next year. I think that may be one of our new traditions, going to get the tree as a family.

What is your all time favourite treat/ food?

Chocolate, Chocolate, Chocolate

Be honest, do you like giving or receiving gifts better? 

I love buying family presents, but I do love receiving a present the best.

What is the best Christmas present you have ever received? 

Ooo tough one. Very random but the most memorable present I received as a child was a skate board. Yes I know very random, it was obviously what I was into back then. Don’t worry you won’t catch me out on my skate board this year.

What would be your dream place to visit for the holiday season? 

Home, I can’t think of anywhere else I’d rather be than home with family. It just wouldn’t be Christmas if I were anywhere else.

Are you a pro present wrapper or do you still fail miserably?

in my head I am a pro present wrapper but in reality they normally look bodged together. But my thoughts are how it’s wrapped doesn’t matter as it’ll be ripped of before you know it.

Most memorable Christmas moment? 

When we were children, my dad used to pretend he was pulling a horse out of the dining room as a present for my brother. We fell for it every year, and eventually became a running joke. He never did get a horse for Christmas.

What made you realise the truth about Santa? 

I really don’t remember finding out the big ‘truth’ about Santa. We always just went along with the spirit of Christmas. It saddens me now when i hear my 8 year old nephew talking about the possibilities of Santa nor being real, as he seems so young. I love the whole fairy tale around Christmas and can’t wait until my two are really into it.

What makes the holidays special for you? 

Family time and magic, I just love the whole idea of being together with family, eating, laughing and enjoying the magic of Christmas. Although my two aren’t really aware of the whole Christmas thing yet, but I am so excited to start really enjoying them enjoying it!

As its Chrsitmas Eve, I am not tagging anyone to take part, but feel free to play along if you’d like to.

id like to wish you all a very merry Christmas, and really hope it is filled with love and laughter…. And maybe food and drink too.

Lots of Love

Kelly and my 1plus1



Getting the Magic of Christmas right??


My little ones are still quite young for the whole Christmas experience. And seem to be enjoying it on a different level to their older cousins. However it dawned on me this week that there are so many rules when it comes to Father Christmas, presents, reindeers and everything festive when you have children.
So I am writing this blog actually for some help on all things Christmas…. presents, elf on the shelf, Father Christmas, reindeers…. the list goes on!

So I’m wrapping Mop Top and Bears presents…. are they from us… are they all from Father Christmas? Why did I never question that my parents didn’t buy us presents??
I imagine some children write a list as long as their arms so I wonder how parents get round not buying them all?
I can feel myself asking a thousand questions as I am writing. But this is serious business as a parent.

The next mystery…. visiting Father Christmas…. why is he everywhere? Is there just one real one and the rest are helpers?

we started the Christmas Eve box last year, which I love. It means we can sit down as a family and use all the items in the box; pjs, book and something yummy.
I feel like I need to buck my ideas up when it comes to really capturing the magic of Christmas with my little ones. And I really don’t want to get it wrong! I’m keen to start some family traditions they can treasure.
So I turn it back to my readers…. what’s your Christmas story, traditions and tips for me as a newbie Christmas mummy???

img_8232Happy Christmas
love a very confused mummy

Christmas is Coming

img_8136I blogged last week about taking my 1 plus 1 to see Father Christmas, (🎅🏼🎄 Christmas Guilt 🎄🎅🏼) and how I hadn’t planned to. However I crumbled against parenting pressure and today we went to The Reindeer Centre in Ashford. It was the first Christmassy thing we have done as a family and as Mr DC was off work was lovely we could all go together.

It’s a bit of a trek but I have to say it is well worth it. You don’t need to book, just turn up. We had to queue to see Father Christmas but only about 15/20 minutes. Mop Top was given a santas hat while we waited and as we queued there were reindeers to look at and toys to play with.
We do not have much comparison but the Father Christmas was really good. Mop Top was hesitant but she was happy to sit with me next to him. He asked her questions, and really played the role well. She received a large cuddly toy which she was more than happy with. Even though we didn’t get Bear a present, (mean mummy) he sat in for a photo, and hopefully next year he’ll be more involved. We obviously purchased the obligatory photo. Us parents received a free mince pie which was an added bonus.

img_8133As well as Father Christmas there were reindeers, chickens, donkeys and other animals to see. Along with a bouncy castle, play areas and lots to see and do.

I am so glad we decided to take them, and it was lovely to see Mop Top take in the fairytale of Father Christmas.
You’ve got to love a family day, and finally we can get in the Christmas spirit!

img_8134Happy Xmas everyone, we hope you enjoy your Xmas build up whatever you get up to.

Love Kelly, Mr DC and our 1 plus 1


You really don’t know tiredness until you are a parent!

img_8088Since becoming a parent I have come to realise there is tired and then there’s parent tiredness. It’s a whole other ball game.

Some days I wake in the morning and genuinely do not know how I am going to make it to lunch time let alone dinner time. But somehow I do…. everyday we make it through the day.
Remember when you used to party till 4am, get up and go to work then next day….. oh how my life has changed! Haha
I’m sure there must be some form of auto pilot that triggers as soon as you have children. You are up all night with the baby then carry on all day.
We have recently purchased FitBits, which can really highlight the broken little sleep we’ve had. Sometimes I take mine off at night as I really don’t need that depressive moment in the morning when my phone tells me I’ve had 4hours on average that night!

Mop Top is really good during the night, 99% of the time we don’t hear from her 7pm-6am but Bear is still a little pickle at night. Sometimes feeding 2-3 times, but he is getting there. I keep telling myself it is for a really short period of time. This time next year (when hopefully he is sleeping through) I’ll be wishing he was diddy again!

img_8009Anyway it’s 9:33 and I am still awake missing out on valuable sleeping hours. So as my Nan and grandad used to say……
Good night. Sleep tight, don’t let the bed bug bites, if they do whack em on the head with a great big shoe