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It’s November and already it’s Christmas Christmas Christmas. You literally can’t go anywhere without noticing something to do with Christmas and I really love Christmas. But it Does means one thing for parents….. Christmas guilt.

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Family Swim

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I have recently cancelled Mop Tops swimming lessons due to the pool being too cold. So we decided that Sunday mornings would be our family swimming sessions. Our local pool have a parent and toddler only period first thing on a Sunday. So off we went bright and early with 1 plus 1, and to be honest I as dreading it! Mr DC came with us so I did have an extra pair of hands, but I can still feel anxiety kicking in as I’m packing the bags. Talking of bags…. For two tiny humans they sure do need a lot of stuff…. Swimming nappy, body warmer, happy nappy, swimming costume, wet wipes, clean clothes, towels the list goes on.
Bear had been fed before we left, so knew that wouldn’t cause any issue mid way through. When we arrived we shipped two kids, what felt like hundred of of bags and ourselves into the changing room. Mr DC took Mop Top and I took Bear. So far so good.
In what I thought was my organised state I had grabbed all the nappies we needed. However as Mr DC changed Mop Top she had a pull up instead of a swimming nappy and no happy nappy. Yes we risked it, put on the pull up and hoped for the best. Parenting fail number 1.

Both babies did well in the water. Bear has been once before so still getting used to it. I submerged him, and introduced a few key words we use with Mop Top. She has not been enjoying her lessons previously due to the temperate at a different pool, but today she seemed to enjoy it again, managing to splash and kick with daddy.

We even managed to get both babies and ourselves dressed with not to many problems. Bear did kick off at the end, but he was super tired, and Mr DC successfully got him to sleep before we left.

So we survived our first family swimming trip, with only 1 parenting fail! And added bonus both babies asleep when we got home, which meant a quick peaceful bacon sandwich for me and Mr DC.

We hope you had a great weekend.

Love Kelly and Mr DC

Breast…Bottle…Bottle…Breast. Does it matter how I feed my baby??

We all know the big never ending breastfeeding debate continues and mums continue to feel judged by how they decide to feed their baby.

Now I breastfed Mop Top for about 3 months and am currently breastfeeding Bear, not because I have an over whelming desire to but I guess just because I felt I should. (By who I’m not sure)

img_7984I can’t even count the amount of times I have been asked ‘are you feeding baby yourself?’….. no I’m starving him!!! I know full well they mean am I breastfeeding but I just don’t understand why people ask that question. In fact I found myself asking a friend recently if she was breastfeeding her newborn and her response felt like she was justifying why she was bottle feeding. Why on earth should us mums feel the need to justify how we feed our baby. I had one lady mid way through an exercise class say ‘are you breast feeding, it’s so easy isn’t it’ well actually no it’s not!!

I can feel my self getting angry as I’m writing this. But I feel we have enough pressures put on us as new mums without the added stress of trying to fulfil societies desire for us to breastfeed.

Breastfeeding Mop Top was never easy, i am not one of those mums who took to breastfeeding like a duck to water (excuse that saying.) I felt awkward, could never get the right position, always seemed to wear the wrong top, used to finish feeding with huge wet patches on me. So when I got mastitis around 3 months that was the final straw and she went to formula.
I remember when Bear was born, it was about day 4 and breastfeeding was proving so hard. I sat in our bedroom and cried in pain as Bear screamed for more milk, with a feeling of guilt smothering me as Mr DC suggested we give him formula. I wanted him to have breast milk so was convinced I’d be able to pump exclusively. I sent Mr DC out at about 9o clock at night to buy a manual pump. I’d googled it, asked friends who’d done it and it was possible.
Oh wow what a faff!!! Every 2 hours up I’d go pump what I could and then feed him that way. It didn’t last long as for us it just wasn’t doable especially with a demanding 12 month old.
Now I am combination feeding Bear and have done since about six weeks. I heard the teat/nipple confusion argument from multiple health visitors but felt it was right for us. We opted for Avent bottles as were advertised as naturally shaped teats ideal for combination feeding. So we introduced one bottle at lunch time and one at bed time the rest he has from the breast. For us this works, I feel less pressure, Mr DC can do bed times, the lunch time bottle fits in with Mop Top. He is now 4 months and this way is working really well.

img_7982I appreciate the whole breast is best debate but surely the formula made today is as nutritious and nourishing as needed. If i compare Mop Top who had 3 months of breast milk with my friends baby who was bottle fed from birth, developmentally they are exactly the same, at the same stage and doing similar things.

It is 2016 and mums are still being judged on whether they breast or bottle feed their baby. It’s crazy. Mums should do what they feel is right and fits into their life style.

I really do not want to get into a breast feeding vs bottle feeding debate, but wanted to share our experience. If you are the mum who exclusively breast fed right up to age 1…. great, if you bottle feed your baby from birth …. great! As long as that baby is well fed, well loved does it really matter.

img_7986Please don’t judge us mums as we are all in this together and it is by no means a competition.

Have a great weekend
Love Kelly
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10 things i wish I’d been told with my first born

imageIve really been thinking lately how different I felt after the birth of my babies. I have to say there are so many things I wished I’d been told about having baby number 1. We did the obligatory active birth course with Mop Top and it was very much about the labour, the drugs and pushing that baby out. But they don’t tell you everything do they!!
So I thought I’d write 10 things I wish I’d been told and I vow to tell any friends that have babies in the future.

 

1- Haemorrhoids…. yes you don’t have to be a 90 year old woman to get these!!

2- How sore you will be for two weeks post-partum. Seriously worse than labour for me. Frozen peas and a rubber blow up ring is my advice!

3- Breast feeding is not easy and natural for everyone. Do what suits you, as long as your baby is fed who cares how!

4- You do not need as much as you think you do. Newborn babies need nappies, baby grows, and your cuddles. (Obviously there are a few other essentials)

5- Your baby really don’t care if his pram cost Β£10 or Β£1000.

6- Take all the help you can get! If they offer say YES

7- It’s not all rose tinted cuddles; you’ll have super mum days, just about survive days, perfect baby days and I cant handle this days….. And that is ok…. Here’s to tomorrow

8- Acid reflux…. argghh this means they cry even more

9- You won’t eat dinner at the same time as your partner for quite a few months.

10- Google will generally know the answer to everything.

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Enjoy
Love Kelly
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Arts and Craft

Most toddlers like to make a mess, and this is why I did this activity outside. I have to admit it took me longer to set up and tidy away than the time Mop Top actually spent doing any of it. Isn’t that the case with so many of the activities us parents spend ages thinking of.
In Poundland they sell cut out people in card, a pack of 15. Our local Poundland is currently selling everything at 90p due to a pound shop competitor across the road, so I try stock up on arts and craft when I’m in there. You’ll be surprised how much they do in there. Paint, brushes, pens all sorts.

IMG_3695.JPGSo I purchased a pack of these plus a few paints we already had and laid them out on the garden table. We didn’t have any aprons so we improvised with one of grandads old shirts.
Gave her a paint brush and of she went. I can’t see me retiring on the sales of her art work as she was more interested in licking the brush, painting the table and generally causing a mess.
The thought was there though right……

Anyway although she didn’t produce a magical piece of artwork for the fridge she had fun, experimented with paint and had a good afternoon and I guess for me as a parent that’s what it’s about. It doesn’t matter if my creative activities don’t go to plan, I know she’s enjoying her self.

If you have any quick craft ideas for me, leave a comment, tweet us or post on our page
Love Kelly
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Healthy Eating Vs Emotional Motherhood

imageBear is almost 4 months now and I returned to exercise pretty soon after having him. My body was used to training so I felt ready to go back to the gym after about 3 weeks. However healthy eating is a whole other ball game.

I have come to realise this week that I literally eat rubbish all day, snack on biscuits, eat chocolate, pick at goodies. Some days I wake up and am so tired the only way I can consider getting through the day is it to eat chocolate. I have a sweet tooth anyway so I do not really need any excuse.

img_7935I definitely think your emotions and how you feel trigger what you eat. And any mummies reading this will know what an emotional roller coaster motherhood is. We generally eat quite healthy meals but it’s the snacking that does me. If I’m by myself with mop Top and bear all day I just know I will snack whenever I can. I feel like I am in a unhealthy eating rut that I can’t get out of.

In an ideal world I’d have a chef follow me round and make me health snacks and meals whenever I wanted…. if only eh!
I guess my own will power and determination will have to do for now. I vow to try harder with my healthy eating.
Feel free to send me your healthy eating top tips.
Love Kelly
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Chicken and Apple Burgers – Baby led weaning Cookbook

When Mop Top was ready to start weaning I didn’t really go down the pureeing food route, but straight to finger food. Mop Top was a really good eater from the start, and I am sure it was because of that.
I came across Babyledweaningcookbook.com just before Bear was born. I regularly see new recipes and ideas that Natalie posts on facebook and they look great. Bear is obviously nowhere near ready to start that phase but I was keen to try some out. So first up Chicken and Apple Burgers.
When I feed Mop Top; I have to feed the whole family, including two men who like their food… no pressure eh! So burgers seemed a good choice as could adjust for each individual.
My worst type of recipe is one with hundreds of ingredients that no one ever has in the cupboard, this one was great only 5 ingredients; all we already had in the cupboard. Chicken, spring onion, quinoa, apple sauce and olive oil.

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I had to pulse the chicken, now as a previous vegetarian I didn’t really like this stage. But it was easy enough. In the recipe it states making 10 2 inch burgers, but because I was making them for the whole family I did change this slightly. Which I think was my down fall…. When frying the burgers half them just wouldn’t stick together. A few were successful and normal burger shape, the others we just improvised.
I served them up with homemade chips. They were a hit with the big eaters and the small eaters and we will definitely be trying them again. Hopefully I’ll be able to fine tune the shape next time!
Check out Baby Led Weaning Cookbook for more Ideas for your little ones. I will be trying a few more in the future.
Love Kelly xx

p.s apologies for the photo quality, not sure what happened there.